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Karen Stone  @eqforchildren.

Karen Stone @eqforchildren.

Karen Stone has over 35 years experience in education from preschool-college. She has a BA in Special Ed and MA in Learning Disabilities. Not only a professional in the field but also a parent of a child with significant disabilities. Her business experience includes 5 years as manager of an after-school tutoring program in 9 counties of NJ. She is currently the CEO of SoftStone Products, Inc. Karen has written children’s Emotional Intelligence programs (Pre-school-HS) research-based and piloted. This program is complete with classroom curriculums and parent guides. Karen writes an anti-bullying blog with now over 100,000 followers. She is currently giving in-service workshops in school districts receiving many positive comments. She is also a motivational speaker and author of a children's book and CD. Her passion and life’s work is helping to create emotionally safe environments in school and at home so that each child has the opportunity to reach his/her unique potential. She lost her beautiful son to Melanoma a year ago and has been able to sustain his passing thanks to her ability to maintain an emotionally safe internal dialogue. Currently, working to create a grief support group teaching these important life sustaining skills..

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This world is one crazy place these days.  We need to promote emotional intelligence more than ever.  We certainly need to raise a new generation of children that have emotional brains that are developed to experience and share empathy, compassion, manage their emotions and appropriate relational skills.

This has been my goal and passion for over 35 years.  I was a bullied child and young teen at  home and at school.  I did not know how to emotionally care for myself nor understand how to overcome those mean voices.  It has taken me many years to understand my goodness and inherent worth and to navigate in a world that hardens the soul and neglects our oneness and uniqueness.  My response to this has been to dedicate my life to the emotional well-being of childen and providing them with the tools and skills to remain connected to their goodness and worth.

I have chosen to use children's playful and fun connection to characters.  My characters speak to their lovability and enhance their feelings of goodness and worth.  Disney characters provided me with a safe place to be who I am and I connected with them in a way that was not available to me with the people in my life. I will never forget this so embarrassing moment at the age of 38 when arriving at Disneyland in California and seeing Mickey Mouse.  I stood their sobbing for it was like I had found my long last friend.  Poor Mickey...he was not prepared to deal with me.

Please join me in helping to raise a new generation of children.  Help me to make a difference in children's lives in this world that doesn't value our children and their inherent goodness. Take a few minutes to watch a few episodes and then pass this channel on to all the young children you know.  If we are going to have our children using technology, let's feel their minds and their souls with the voices that will surely help them to endure and to thrive.

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The phrase, “Can I Have a Happy Thought Please?” is an easy and effective way for children to stop a bully.  It is tried and true!  I have been teaching children to do this for years.  The positive thought and energy stops the negative energy and there are many ways for a bully to act or reply.  He/She can say they are sorry.  They can try again and get the same response, “Can I have a happy thought, please”, and then turn away.  They can turn away the first time.  Eventually, they don’t bother you at all.  Why is this so?

Energy is an interesting phenomenon.  Positive energy is very powerful and this phrase is a positive response to a negative action.  The response is unexpected and literally stops a bully in his tracks.  The bully is not being attacked.  The person saying this is no longer a victim and it is empowering for a child or anyone to have a way to counter a negative action towards that for the most part does not insight more bullying behavior.

So how do you know this works?  Try it and see what happens when someone says a negative thing to you.  See what the response is.  Children love this and if they learn this at an early age…WOW!!!  This certainly helps to reduce bullying and to re-frame it in a positive action.

Being bullied is devastating and we have way too much it today.  It is worse than it used to be.  Having been bullied for many years, I wish I had had this response in my repertoire.  I just took it, swallowed it and experienced the unconscious negative outcome later in life.

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Last winter and Spring, I had the privilege of piloting my EQ program in a North Jersey preschool.  The pilot is a great success and we have begun our 2nd year.  Teachers love it, the children love being Creators of Joy (CJs). They could recite CJs 7 voices and how they made them feel, for ex. happy, good, kind.  I love visiting every two weeks and the picture you see is our Rainbow Rootie day when we all looked silly!  When I visit, I demonstrate the different aspects of the theme they are teaching for that week.  I learn as much as they do. The children love all of CJs buddies and continuously talk about them.

Research tells us that the emotional brain is growing the fastest from birth to six.  This certainly was evident for the younger children ( 3 year olds) were able to focus on CJ and how the voices felt more easily than the older children.  What a surprise!  They had less academics (left brain stimulation) and were more open to the messages and feelings and using CJ in their play.  So the earlier we start, the better!


The teachers asked for more time in their curriculum for CJ. This Fall they began this and are including more of the fun activities in the curriculum.  The activities all included history, science and inter-relational opportunities.  However, the trend in preschool is academics and yet the staff felt that they needed more time for these important skills. 

Research is showing us that children who have more play and social and emotional learning instead of the current trend in academics actually pull ahead by the time they reach 4th grade. Play teaches those important skills of sharing, compromise, critical thinking to name a few.

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 Kindness Week came and went throughout the country. Good Morning America shared a grass-roots campaign that was started in a woman’s backyard when her children were young. She created a non-profit, “Kids for Peace,” that has initiated the Great Kindness Challenge. This challenge asks schools and youth groups to perform many acts of kindness throughout the week. She hopes to create school environments where students thrive. She began with three schools and now there is twelve thousand participating.

            I stopped to think about this and how it doesn’t seem to last beyond the week. That is because there is so much more social and emotional learning that needs to happen on a daily basis. If twelve thousand schools see the benefit of one week, why is this not an indicator that these lessons need to be ongoing throughout the year? And so Emotional Intelligence skills and behaviors that stimulate the emotional center of the brain, increases success by 80% and helps children to not just survive but thrive, need to be happening in every home and school every single day.. If one week can make such a difference, let’s consider the outcome of daily practices.

Our seven attributes of Emotional Intelligence represent all the challenges for Kindness Week. Imagine us practicing this 52 weeks a year! What a different community, country and world we would have.

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As the New Year begins, we all stop and think about the past one and how we will choose differently. For me, my greatest challenge ahead stems from the past election chaos. Did I do enough to prevent the results and every time I ask myself this question, the answer is no. I too have taken for granted the freedoms we so cherish and have become passive in stepping up to the plate to engage in a more assertive demonstration of preserving them. Oh sure, I donated money, signed petitions and spoke of the frustrations of language and actions that sullied our homes, work environments, schools and foreign relations. But did I get out and work, no. Did I alert my senators and congressman of my concerns, no. I passively watched as our country was swept into our past of racism, antisemitism, slanderous threats, and the possibility that the freedoms and services we have worked so hard to attain be perhaps on the chopping block. 2016 was not an emotionally intelligent year.

I am scared, worried, concerned and angry at myself. What now! First of all, what does an emotionally intelligent year look like? It looks like a greater emphasis on empathy and kindness. Making choices that build self-confidence and motivation by thinking positively and taking actions to mindfully do so. Helping wherever we can and placing other’s needs before our own. Managing our emotions and not letting them control what we say and do. Being accountable for those actions with apologies and doing it differently. Having quality play time that promotes relational activities teaching compromise, sharing and being a good friend. And last but certainly not least, being grateful for what we have and who we are and not allowing ourselves to feel victimized by the actions of others and of a life that can be unfair.

Taking positive action to prevent the loss of our civil liberties, begins with what we teach our children. For in teaching our children how to be emotionally intelligent, as adults we too will have to model what it looks like for our children mirror us each and every day. My voice will have to louder and more demonstrative about preserving these rights we have accomplished in the past. Let’s model and teach how children how it is done! Join me in stepping up to plate for the real progressive change that must take place in this country! This works and we can do this!


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