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This is one of those things that I learned through failure.

Several years ago, I went through a very dark period in my life. A period during which I was under a lot of stress. Some of it was self-induced and some of it was caused by outside forces. I lost twenty pounds. I began taking medication for anxiety. I fought like Hell to put on a happy face when I was out in public. But by the time I got home I was tired. And I am quite certain that my wife and kids saw a side of me that others did not. I wasn’t mean. I simply was grumpier than I should have been. They deserved better than what they got. I can’t go back and redo those days. I wish I could, but I can’t. But I have today. And right now, that is enough.

One person that helped me tremendously during that time and whenever I have needed him, is Ben Gilpin. I can’t begin to imagine how many voxes Ben must have listened to during those days. Many of them I’m sure were not pleasant. But, he was always there. He was like the wise tree in Shel Silverstein’s The Giving Tree[1]. Always able to give me what I needed at the right time. When I needed advice. He gave it to me. And when I just needed an ear to listen. He was that ear. And like the tree in the book, Ben gave much more than he received. That is just the type of person that Ben is.

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Some children simply don’t know how to play. Let me be more specific. There are some children that we know have a very difficult time playing properly and safely with their peers. I know who they are and oftentimes when I am called to the playground I know it is them that I am coming to remove.

I'll never forget the day I was called to the kindergarten playground because a young man had pushed and hit two girls. They had done nothing to deserve being hit or pushed. And though neither child was injured, I was still upset. Upset because this same young man continues to make bad choices despite the consequence he receives and/or the counseling that I provide. I truly believe that the way he plays at school is the way he plays at home and he doesn’t know any better.

Once I was able to get him to my office, I tried to talk to him about what he had done and why it wasn’t acceptable. No response. It is always frustrating when a child ignores you, but I have gotten used to it and I know not to take it personally. I was at the point where I had to decide what to do next. Do I give him a consequence or do I simply counsel him? Maybe I do both.

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I will continue to make that mistake.

Only a fool would make such a statement! Right? Honestly, I am wondering if I should leave that first sentence as is or if I should massage it just a bit. You see Frank Stepnowski is a large man who could crush me like a grapefruit if he wanted. Lucky for me Frank is also a kind and forgiving man with a great sense of humor

This was apparent when Frank and I recorded an episode for My Bad. For reasons beyond our control, the interview had to be pushed back about an hour. Since I hadn’t connected with Frank before, I decided to call him at our original time in an attempt to build some repertoire. We ended up talking for almost an hour, as if we were old friends catching up on lost time.

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We all have people in our lives that we connected with right away. Maggie Bolado was one of those people for me. We have never met in person, but I feel as if I know her better than I know people that I see every day. My guess is that it is because we share the same unwavering love for children. Our own and the ones that we serve.

Maggie is the type of person that has the uncanny ability to find the perfect quote or just the right lyric that resonates with her PLN. She somehow knows who to tag each time she sends these gems out. Her most recent quote to kick off 2017 was wonderful.

Welcome To Flight 2017

We are prepared to take off into the “New Year”. Make sure you attitude and blessings are secured and locked in an upright position. All negative and self-destructive devices must be turned off at this time. Should we lose altitude under pressure during the flight, reach up and pull down a Prayer. Prayers will automatically be activated by faith. Once your Faith is activated you will be able to assist other passengers.

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This afternoon my son and I went for a brief walk around our neighborhood. It was a beautiful day. The wind was gusting, but the sun had been waiting all spring to make its presence known. And today it did. Providing the kind of warmth that made the cool breeze feel welcome.

We held hands. When he allowed me to. He’s becoming a Big Boy, so hand-holding isn’t always permitted. Sometimes we’d race down the sidewalk. I would let him get ahead of me and he would turn around and giggle like only a six-year old can. Blissful moments like these I do not take for granted. And I try not let anything interrupt them. Hoping they will last forever.

But they don’t. Somehow, invariably, thoughts of work always seem to creep into this sacred space. Like an uninvited guest that is not welcome. I try to push them away, while simultaneously clinging tighter to the interrupted moment. This is a skill that I have yet to master. Actually, I am not even close.

Why is it so difficult to stay on one side of the fence? Is it just me? Climbing back and forth is very tiresome and can become quite dangerous. And yet when I am at work I do not have difficulty staying away from the fence. Why is that? Maybe it’s because I have complete confidence in the other side of the fence. I know that it will always be there for me. No matter what. I take it for granted. Is that wrong?

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