When children are playing, it is a good time to see how they talk and treat one another. They model you! Children watch everything you do and then translate it into their language. They imitate you in their attempt to get ideas on how to connect,talk and get what they want from their friends. They watch your body language and your facial expressions. What kind of example are you providing for your children? Are they yelling, huffing and puffing, telling little white lies, and controlling what is happening?
I have watched children in preschool playing with their classmates and lo and behold I learn how they are spoken to at home, how the adults speak to one another and who controls what is happening in their homes. I have watched children in elementary classes out on the playground, playing a game and working as a team. I then learn how it is being done at home.
When children hit their teens, they begin to model their peers and want to portray those who seem to be popular and are getting the attention they crave. And we wonder why cyber-bullying is so rampant amongst this age group. We also haven’t been able to stop it.
I will take it one step further. Married couples more often than not model the relationship their parents had and so childhood behavior patterns continue and we pass them on from one generation to another.
How do we stop this? We learn new behaviors and stop the generational passing on of the bullying effect. We create new models and try not to slip into old patterns. It can be done! But it will take a new consciousness of parenting to bring it about.
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