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Learning Should Be Consensual

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On the first day of my grad classes we do a funky intro ice breaker.  Students pair up and google the person next to them and introduce them solely based on what they find on the internet.  Afterwards each person gets to ask me a question.  During one of the classes I received the question "Have you ever heard of or read the book Because of Mr. Terupt by Rob Buyea?"

I have to admit, I had never heard of the book.  And a couple weeks later she gave me a copy of the book to read.  Here is a confession, it has been probably 20 years since I have read a fiction book, but since it was being given to me from a student, I could not just ignoreit , I had to read it.

I did put it off for a few weeks and then decided to read it last week.





The description of the exchange in the the first chapter literally happened to me two days before reading it.  The second chapter described an exchange that nearly literally happened in my class the first day of school, and it continued on like that chapter after chapter.  The book was an incredible view into the heads of my students.  It was a reminder to me that every exchange I have with them has an impact and contains a “lesson.”  It reminded me that it is truly the little things that matter most.  It reminded me that they will be who I am and not who I want them to be.   It reminded me to model being the person I want them to be, instead of trying to teach them to be.  It reminded me that in great classrooms learning is consensual.

Personalizing learning.

Individualizing learning.

Standards based learning.

Project based learning.

Flipping the learning.

There are many things we can/should/would/could be doing as teachers.  How many things do we do with the consent of the kids?  Is learning in your class consensual?  Is it self-directed?

We want kids to do epic things.

We want them to write.

Create. Innovate. Collaborate.

We want them to produce products that make a dent in this world.

Do we ask them for their consent?  Or demand their blind allegiance that following what we think should be done is best.

I have been reflecting on the things that are important to me that “I know” and that “I can do.”   In each case before I learned them I did something first.  I said “show me.”  Someone telling me to “do this” is an instant turn off.  That is probably why for most of school I was just waiting for the chance to escape.  School was a box.  I was constantly being told to do this, learn this, behave like this, and someday you can leave the box and be successful.  I was told if I did things right I could eventually leave the box and do epic things.

What always struck me as odd is the very people who wanted me to become a better writer never shared their writing.  The people who wanted me to be a scientist never shared what they were researching.  Schools that said I could do epic things in the future just made me sit in a row every day.

Your kids do not want to be taught.  They want to be moved.  Teachers think kids learn from their teaching, but they learn a lot more by watching what is being modeled for them.   They listen to and watch everything that you do.  Sit at lunch with a group and get them talking about the adults in their life, they can spot a hypocrite a mile away.

I think that we often forget that every exchange we have with kids is a “lesson.”  Every time we pass them in the hall, and each time we share with them about our lives in the classroom is a lesson.   Most important is every time we share with them what we are learning and each time we show them examples of the innovative, creative, and yes sometimes even epic things that we are attempting to accomplish.  Kids will be who we are and not who we want them to be.  My father did not tell me to play baseball, he took me outside and let me play with him.  He did not sit me in front of a book that showed me how to use tools,  he brought me under the car with him.  I got dirty with him, beside him.

Teachers will usually create goals for their students.   How many of those goals include you getting dirty with them?  What will you be doing with your kids?  More teaching?  or will you start modeling?  Is not will you teach your kid to be a writer, historian, scientist, artist, or even simply a kind person, the question is will you be that person with them.

Will you be their model?

Or will you be their teacher?

Remember kids don’t want to be taught, they want to be moved.

Be the person you want your kids to be.

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Paul taught middle school social studies for 26 years, and is currently trying to reinvent himself as an alternative high school social studies teacher. Since writing a bio about yourself is hard, he asked a student to finish it and this is what she wrote:)
Paul Bogush is a remarkable man. His teaching methods are fun and unique, and he makes every class enjoyable. His energetic mood is infectious, and you can’t help but smile around him. He is very genuine, and is not strict or boring like other teachers. Everything he says is always stuck in your mind, because he delivers everything with boldness and confidence. He’s an all around incredible person, and makes learning ten times more fun than any other class. He will be dearly missed by not just me, but most of his students when we leave next year.

PS please send help, we weren’t very good listeners in homeroom this week so he has us in lock down every afternoon for a week.
  • Jon Harper /  @Jonharper70bd
    Jon Harper / @Jonharper70bd Sunday, 14 February 2016

    Wow! I am going right to Amazon to buy this book. This was powerful Paul and I couldn't agree more. You did an excellent job of putting their thoughts into words. Oh, to be a fly on the wall in your room. I bet the discussions are wonderful. Your students are very lucky. Thank you for writing this piece.

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