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Posted by on in Early Childhood

So, infancy is sliding out of the way and now there’s this new little person who is suddenly both mobile and opinionated. We know there are two ways to get through life…the easy way and the hard way. There may not truly be an easy way to navigate through toddlerhood, but being mindful of the unnegotiable rules can help move the needle in that direction.

1. Make sure there’s a routine set up and stick to that throughout the day. Predictability is important to toddlers. It brings a sense of security and stability that make for more happy and more calm.

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2. Anticipate…no, EXPECT them to be irrational. You can’t really expect to reason with a child who has his own rules of reason and will change them at will. He may ask you to cut up his fruit and then scream when you do, wanting it put back together again. See? Don’t even try.

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Posted by on in What If?

 Beautiful

She just couldn’t let it go! We were heading to see the biggest movie of the year and all she could think about was her hair. For over thirty minutes she twisted, turned and toyed with it. This was not the first time I had witnessed her cosmetic frustrations. But there was something about this one that…

That made me think that something needs to change. And soon! 

Our girls are spending too much time fretting over their appearance. However, they are not to blame! Almost from the day they recognize their own reflection, they are inundated with images of what beautiful is and what beautiful isn’t. After watching my daughter worry about her hair for at least a half hour I began to conduct some mental math. And I figured that by the time girls graduate high school they most likely have spent thousands of hours agonizing over their appearance. 

I want to stop for a moment and make it clear that I realize that I am generalizing here. But I don’t think I am that far off. Not only do I worry about lost time, I worry about the effect that this has on our girls’ psyche. It is not fair to them and we need to do something about it.

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Posted by on in Early Childhood

smilingKid

Navigating through the early childhood years is a tough proposition. It’s amazing that so many make it to the other side.

The hurdles come right after the other once the day begins- getting ready to go someplace in the morning, saying goodbye to Mom or Dad at child care, trying something new or going on a new adventure, ending one activity and moving on to another, leaving child care, eating at a restaurant instead of at home, and getting to bed.

All of these can evoke stress and discomfort for young children and their caregivers. When we see each of them as separate events, finding solutions seems overwhelming. But, if we can examine their commonality, they will be easier to address.

Looking again at that string of daily tantrum triggers, you’ll notice every one is a form of transition. The child is being asked to change from one activity to another or from familiar to unfamiliar.

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Posted by on in Early Childhood

nolisten

Ask any teacher about the challenges of the classroom, and somewhere near the top of that list will be getting children to listen. Particularly in the early childhood classroom, we’re not only working with all the competing stimuli around us (squirrel!) but also with impulse control and other executive functions that are in the early stages of development. With so many factors working against you, getting a room full of young children to listen can be quite the challenge.

But there are also things we do as we speak to children that may increase or lessen the likelihood that children will actually be listening.  Here are 6 ways we may be unintentionally telling children NOT to listen, and how to correct that:

1. Making it Sound Optional

Sometimes we give a direction, but present it as a choice. “Should we sing that song again?” “Help us pick up the blocks, OK?” In our adult world we know the subtleties that imply that these aren’t really optional, but that’s all lost on young children. Adults often give what they believe are polite directions, only to be met with a polite, “No, thank you.” So make directions...well...direct.

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