As the New Year begins, we all stop and think about the past one and how we will choose differently. For me, my greatest challenge ahead stems from the past election chaos. Did I do enough to prevent the results and every time I ask myself this question, the answer is no. I too have taken for granted the freedoms we so cherish and have become passive in stepping up to the plate to engage in a more assertive demonstration of preserving them. Oh sure, I donated money, signed petitions and spoke of the frustrations of language and actions that sullied our homes, work environments, schools and foreign relations. But did I get out and work, no. Did I alert my senators and congressman of my concerns, no. I passively watched as our country was swept into our past of racism, antisemitism, slanderous threats, and the possibility that the freedoms and services we have worked so hard to attain be perhaps on the chopping block. 2016 was not an emotionally intelligent year.
I am scared, worried, concerned and angry at myself. What now! First of all, what does an emotionally intelligent year look like? It looks like a greater emphasis on empathy and kindness. Making choices that build self-confidence and motivation by thinking positively and taking actions to mindfully do so. Helping wherever we can and placing other’s needs before our own. Managing our emotions and not letting them control what we say and do. Being accountable for those actions with apologies and doing it differently. Having quality play time that promotes relational activities teaching compromise, sharing and being a good friend. And last but certainly not least, being grateful for what we have and who we are and not allowing ourselves to feel victimized by the actions of others and of a life that can be unfair.
Taking positive action to prevent the loss of our civil liberties, begins with what we teach our children. For in teaching our children how to be emotionally intelligent, as adults we too will have to model what it looks like for our children mirror us each and every day. My voice will have to louder and more demonstrative about preserving these rights we have accomplished in the past. Let’s model and teach how children how it is done! Join me in stepping up to plate for the real progressive change that must take place in this country! This works and we can do this!