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“Can I Have A Happy Thought, Please?” Can This Stop A Bully?

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The phrase, “Can I Have a Happy Thought Please?” is an easy and effective way for children to stop a bully.  It is tried and true!  I have been teaching children to do this for years.  The positive thought and energy stops the negative energy and there are many ways for a bully to act or reply.  He/She can say they are sorry.  They can try again and get the same response, “Can I have a happy thought, please”, and then turn away.  They can turn away the first time.  Eventually, they don’t bother you at all.  Why is this so?

Energy is an interesting phenomenon.  Positive energy is very powerful and this phrase is a positive response to a negative action.  The response is unexpected and literally stops a bully in his tracks.  The bully is not being attacked.  The person saying this is no longer a victim and it is empowering for a child or anyone to have a way to counter a negative action towards that for the most part does not insight more bullying behavior.

So how do you know this works?  Try it and see what happens when someone says a negative thing to you.  See what the response is.  Children love this and if they learn this at an early age…WOW!!!  This certainly helps to reduce bullying and to re-frame it in a positive action.

Being bullied is devastating and we have way too much it today.  It is worse than it used to be.  Having been bullied for many years, I wish I had had this response in my repertoire.  I just took it, swallowed it and experienced the unconscious negative outcome later in life.

Help me bring this awful behavior to an end and if we all take a step then we can outnumber and out energize the negativity that abounds.  Each and every one of us can play a part!

Our YouTube channel will help you teach your children this simple solution with CJ and BowsKnows.



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Karen Stone has over 35 years experience in education from preschool-college. She has a BA in Special Ed and MA in Learning Disabilities. Not only a professional in the field but also a parent of a child with significant disabilities. Her business experience includes 5 years as manager of an after-school tutoring program in 9 counties of NJ. She is currently the CEO of SoftStone Products, Inc. Karen has written children’s Emotional Intelligence programs (Pre-school-HS) research-based and piloted. This program is complete with classroom curriculums and parent guides. Karen writes an anti-bullying blog with now over 100,000 followers. She is currently giving in-service workshops in school districts receiving many positive comments. She is also a motivational speaker and author of a children's book and CD. Her passion and life’s work is helping to create emotionally safe environments in school and at home so that each child has the opportunity to reach his/her unique potential. She lost her beautiful son to Melanoma a year ago and has been able to sustain his passing thanks to her ability to maintain an emotionally safe internal dialogue. Currently, working to create a grief support group teaching these important life sustaining skills..

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