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You Will Not Always Have To Walk Behind

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I'll never forget the day I was driving home from work and saw one of my kindergarten students walking home. She was walking down the street with her mother who was pushing her younger brother in a stroller. She was about ten steps behind her mother and she was obviously getting a lecture for something she had done wrong. What made this readily apparent was the fact that she had her head down, staring at the sidewalk, as she was sullenly following her mother.

This event resonated with me because the last time I had seen this 5-year-old she was bragging to me about what a great day she was having. While I have no idea what had transpired right before I drove by, the stark contrast from my earlier encounter with the young girl made my Friday drive home a little less joyous.

I work in a school in which most of the students receive free and reduced meals. Many of them have never had anyone in their family attend college. The majority of my students are being raised by single moms who are simply doing the best they can. And worst of all, a growing number of my students have parents who are currently incarcerated.

I worry that many of my students are so unaccustomed to seeing friends and family members in positions of authority that they do not even see it as a possibility. Many have little, to no freedom at all when they are at home. Then they come to school and we tell them where to sit, when to talk and what to read and write. Not that we shouldn’t structure our students’ days. It’s just that we are working with a generation of children who have no idea that they have the potential to one day be the decision-makers.

Why would they think that they will ever have any authority or say in anything? That is until they have kids of their own.  Because this is the first time that they have ever had any authority over anything. And so they hold this authority close to their chest and wield it over their kids as it was wielded over them. Not allowing them to see the front of the line. Forcing them to always walk behind, forever stuck in their parent’s shadow. Unable to see the future and what it could promise.

Depending on our school, this may be the case for some, or many of the students that we work with. It is therefore our responsibility to try to break this vicious cycle. I think we start by changing our children’s mindsets. We must teach them that it is okay to be the smartest and the kindest person in the room.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most firghtens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Marianne Williamson

And we must remind them that their lifescripts are not yet written. And that once they begin writing them they are allowed to use an eraser. Furthermore, they must know that what they are working on now is just a rough draft that will only improve with each revision.

We must teach them that they can be great even though they may not be right now.

We must teach them that life can great even though it may not be right now.

Finally, we must teach them that while they might not currently like where they are positioned, they will not always have to walk behind.


*Click on the quote above to watch the brief 2 minute scene from Coach Carter in which this quote is recited with passion and purpose.




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Jon is currently the assistant principal in Dorchester County, Maryland. This is his seventh year serving as an assistant principal at the elementary level. Prior to becoming an administrator he served as a Math Coach and an elementary school teacher. During his ten years as a classroom teacher he taught first, second, fourth and fifth grades. During his sixth year teaching he earned Nationally Board Certification, which he held for ten years. For seven years he ran a Young Gentleman's Club that was aimed at helping young men reach their full potential.  

Jon received a B.A. from Furman University while majoring in Philosophy. He later went on to earn his B.S from Salisbury University while majoring in Elementary Education. Jon was fortunate enough to have the opportunity to student teach in New Zealand. He eventually received his M.A. degree from Salisbury University in Public School Administration.

Jon lives in Cambridge, Maryland with his amazing wife and two awesome children.

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